Happy.

April 11, 2012

I think I received the best bit of parenting advice yesterday.  It is so simple, but it is everything.  Ready?  Here it is: Model happiness for your children and everything is going to be A-OK.  Of course, truly being that happy person can be tricky (at least for a person like me).  But I do believe that everyone must work at happiness.  There are many opportunities to fall off the path, but it is what we all search for in this life.

So, I am making a commitment to focus less on all the little "dos and don'ts" of being a mom (for myself and my kids) and focus more on living a happy life.....I already know the things that make me happy and the things that don't.  My kids will be so much better off for it.

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29 comments:

  1. Lovely advice! Even when we have to work at it, they're learning that sometimes we have to intentionally be joyful. Thanks for the reminder.

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  2. Just found your blog... it's wonderful! And this advice rang within my soul this morning! I just posted yesterday about the struggles of being a single mom, as well as the few things that have helped me along my way... THIS little GEM of advice should be on there. It is SO SO true!

    Thank you for sharing! You have a new follower :)

    XO

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  4. Love this. I have to work at it, too, sometimes. But I agree, happiness/contentment/ease/whatever is the best example.

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  5. I can't remember where I read it, but long ago I heard/read someone say... My Father never told me how to live, he lived and allowed me to observe his life. I've always thought that made the most sense. I think I've learned the most from people when they have just shown me who they are in the most authentic way possible. Happiness and unhappiness included.

    Your post reminded me of this video
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pp76UjccYBQ&list=UUOX2p8bdUM_m0_HLH2luiqw&index=1&feature=plcp

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  6. This really speaks to me today. Thank you!

    jbhat

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  7. this is so perfect for me today! thank you!

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  8. Me encanto! Tenes mucha razón...NO POSTERGAR UNA VIDA FELIZ!!!! Si mama esta feliz, todos estans felices.
    Cariños,
    veritovera

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  9. I love this! In the book: *What you practice is what you have* there is an exercise where you visualize your 'ideal' life-- what it would be like in detail...when you 'reach happiness'. You cultivate the feelings you feel in your body, your facial expressions, etc. and then realize that you just felt like that RIGHT NOW. You didn't have to 'reach happiness', you already have it. She has you write down the experience and even record it so that you can listen to it every day and basically retrain your mind to experience the life you want in this moment. It's been working for me!

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  10. Great advice! I couldn't agree more :)

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  11. Colleen....I LOVE this. I am totally getting that book and trying that exercise. Thank you for sharing. xo

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  12. Thank you Jora, this is a bit of advice I too can use this week! I am always reminding myself that my feelings and my reactions to what is happening around me are my choice. Choose happiness!

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  13. This is so true and such an important thing to keep top of mind-- and among other things, particularly useful for staving off that silly feeling of guilt that sometimes accompanies just feeling happy.

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  14. AMEN. so very true, especially the part about knowing what (and who) make us happy- and those that don't... and putting our time, effort, & energy onto the former, rather than the latter.

    modeling an "A-OK" attitude is an area that i need to work on. we haven't had the best of weeks, and i've lost my patience (& positivity) a bit more than i would have liked.

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  15. So funny just this weekend as we were blissed out in the sun I had the same thought. Seeing us happy is all they need!

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  16. EXACTLY what i needed to be reminded of!

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  17. Love this reminder Jora. Thank you for sharing! And was this inspired by the email we both receive each morning? :)

    p.s. love the story behind your home...lovely, lovely.

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  18. Wow, Jora, you just totally blew my mind. I'm having such a hard time parenting my almost-3-yr-old lately, perhaps this is the idea that will save me (and him)!

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  19. Wonderful...and I completely agree. I have also recently discovered that I have to name the not so great feelings too. I hope that doesn't sound corny. I spend so much time focusing on the positive that I am afraid to throw it out into the world..."i feel stressed right now, I feel overwhelmed right now". I find that when I am able to do this, my kiddo is not "infected" with the underlying stress and we can all have a good cleansing breath together...and a giggle.
    Best,
    Tina

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  20. so true, and yet this can be so hard for so many of us. thanks for a great reminder to start this week!

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  21. Great advice. I need to work on this.... thanks for the reminder!
    xo . trina

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  22. So true I had to borrow the thought:)

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  23. I love that quote!!! I often have to remind myself that "life is not a waiting room." It's happening right now!

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  24. Thanks for sharing Jora. Love it.

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  25. This is so true. I learned the hard way to be more mindful of the present moment--to savor each day with my children. Just stumbled upon your blog and it seems delightful. Can't wait to read more!

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